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Saturday, August 27, 2011

Monogamy annoys me

It's a personal thing, so don't take it personally monogamists. But in a world were the boundaries of morality are changing, monogamy really fucking annoys me when it effects my relationships, or those of my friends who it effects. I recently got myself out of a particularly possessive monogamous from a woman I ironically met in the poly network, thinking I could easily fit into a monogamous life style. Perhaps it could have worked, if not for the constant abuse and possessiveness. I have no doubt perhaps it could have done. But when you hear some one you care about saying "I'm polyamorous but I have to go monogamous for some one", especially after just recently being in a violent relationship that demanded the same thing, alarm bells ring. Which is why monogamy annoys me.

Why the fuck can't we be who we are, I mean isn't that what love is about for fucks sake? Accepting the nature of your spouse? I know it's possible. One of my friends is poly and married to a monogamous man. He is very accepting of her lifestyle, which is why they are happy. Ask the how it works, and you might be surprised. He is happy with her, she is happy with him and other partners. he doesn't want more, an neither does she, but thats not the point.

The point is they love each other, not own each other. A friend of mine once said recetly

"If you can't be who you are with someone, then that someone is not for you"

Monogamy might work for me, don't rule it out, with the right person. But don't expect e to change for the sake of change. That road leads only one way.

Disaster

5 comments:

  1. Psh, humans are possessive and territorial and tend to see other people as a threat to their relationship status (which they often are). Relationships often involve a lot of vested time, effort, and interests.

    When you think about it in terms of partnerships and investments, monogamy only makes sense, it's a safer and more manageable investment. In societies where both genders have rights it's no mistake that monogamy is correlated to intelligence when you consider the basic psychological needs and interests of people. I'm a sociopath incapable of monogamous relationships and even I get that, so why is it so hard for impulse driven empaths like yourself?

    Btw, your typing skills are atrocious, and I still pwned you in WoW.

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  2. always good to know especially as it's highly unlikely I play on your server :p

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  3. "I'm a sociopath incapable of monogamous relationships and even I get that, so why is it so hard for impulse driven empaths like yourself?"

    Your also a bad reader because that's exactly what I said. Next poorly thought out comment please

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  5. Not with my eyesight apparently, bye

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